A sure way to get their opinion secretly is to tell that one of your friends is gay and watch their reaction. Have you ever noticed them speaking negatively of a homosexual person based on their sexuality alone? How do they treat gay acquaintances? Their opinion of gay couples and people in the movies would be a clear indicator. So, if you are worried about how the family will react, I suggest testing the waters. And while it is right for some families, most close relatives would support their loved ones no matter what. We are surrounded by prejudice and fear that our own families will not accept our choice. Let’s cover the topic of homosexual relationships and find out just how much gay you are.ĭespite the numerous pride parades and LGBT community activists, it’s still hard to come out for regular people. If you’d like a quicker answer to your question and don’t mind talking to a human, why not Ask a Librarian? Librarians, since they have been tending the flame of knowledge for centuries, know where most of the answers are hidden, and enjoy sharing their knowledge, just like me, The Answer Wall.If you here for this Am I gay quiz, it means that you’ve been exploring your sexuality and would like to get answers to some questions. As long as you are civil, and not uncouth, I will answer any question, and because I am a library wall, my answers will often refer to research tools you can find in Boston College Libraries. They take pictures of the questions you post there, and give them to me. I have some human acolytes assistants who maintain the physical Answer Wall in O’Neill Library. Or, if you aren’t into deities of knowledge, like a ghost in the machine. You might say I have multiple manifestations. In the online world, I live in this blog. In the material world, I’m a two foot by three foot dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill Library at Boston College. I’m a public but very private wall.) Categories Random Post navigation I observe a strict anonymity policy to protect everyone’s privacy. I especially appreciate that you told others they are loved and important- so true! (I’m sorry I had to remove the post-it with contact info. Thank you for being so supportive and for sharing your story honestly. Self love is a beautiful process, and it is ongoin. If people do not accept you for who you are, then it is their loss not yours. Just know that you are loved, you are important and it is amazing to be queer, as it is a valid identity and many people are. It is very homogeneous/ hetero-normative and being in a catholic institution is not the easiest environment for queer students. 7 years later, I could not be happier, my only regret is I did not talk to someone sooner. They were so accepting and I was one of the lucky queer people that have an accepting family/friend group.
That week I told my friends and family I was gay. There was a point where i was looking at the train tracks on the T ride home (waiting for a train to come so I could jump) Thankfully I had a change of heart and now i look back at that day. I internalized everything society told me. Before I came out I struggled w/ depression and it got to the point where I was going to take my own life, because, quite frankly, I hated myself. I have been out nearly 7 years now (age 16, sophomore year of HS).
See BC resources: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ and area resources: bit.ly/ma-lgbtq There are also Boston area groups if you prefer something off-campus. There are some great BC groups where you can meet supportive peers. People who are questioning their sexual orientation are also welcome. You don’t need to be certain you are gay before talking to someone or attending an LGBTQ+ meeting. There are many people you can safely talk to about your feelings and questions.
Maybe some day we’ll have the courage to come out. It’s hard for me because you can’t talk to anyone w/out revealing your secret. But don’t despair- speaking with a BC counselor or a LGBTQ-friendly advisor can help you work through the conflict that you are feeling.
states and countries have actually banned conversion therapy. Conversion therapies try to change one’s sexual orientation, but they have not been successful and in fact may be harmful. Scientific research has shown that sexual orientation is not something that can be changed.